Howdy Vectorman,
With Nebulas almost all of them will appear greyish or whitish. The easiest Neb to see any colour in is the Orion Nebula which displays a Greenish tinge at first. But after training your eye you will see pink as well. Training the eye is not that hard but don't expect to be able to do it on the first attempt.
Photography brings the colour out, but it's hard for our eyes to see it (another story alltogether).
Unfortunately many people miss all the amazing detail by only having a quick look at each object.
To start training your eye, make sure your eyes are dark adapted (about 10 minutes will be enough), then don't just look at the object, really study it. See if you can find any detail, colour, count the stars buried inside it, etc. The longer you look at an object the more you will see. I can easily spend 15 - 20 minutes looking at the Orion Neb without removing my eye from the eyepiece. You will start to notice much detail even the first time. The second night at it your eye knows what to look for (coz you saw some of the detail last time) and try find even more detail. By this 2nd attempt (or 3rd maybe) you will notice the pink in the centre of the green neb.
Same with Globs, Galaxies, open clusters, dark matter etc. The longer you spend studying each object the more you will see.
As far as a dob v's SCT, well that's a whole different story. Dobs are designed mainly (but not only) for Deep Space. They hang around the 'F' range of 4 - 6. Whereas SCT's are mainly around 9 - 12 (someone correct me if I am wrong please). Dobs also have a slightly smaller 2ndry Obstruction than an SCT allowing more light in, which helps see the faint fuzzies easier. Although both scopes can work at both ranges (Planetary and Deep Space) they are designed for different viewing.
Hope all that makes sense!
Oh, I almost forgot!!
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