Phil life can deal harser blows than that .. please focus on the fact that you have four children and that they can be with you at least someof the time. As time goes on the pain eases, and on the bright side with usable face to face conferencing only around the corner contact will improve I bettcha.
It is very touching you chose to share your inner feelings with us I have asked myself what words I could offer to make it better for you ... there really are none but I can tell you (having worked in the Family Law Division of the Family Law Court for some 5 years) there are cases that are simply tragic in the extreme... The only advice I can offer is to count your blessings for in those moments the pain will ease.
best wishes alex
Phil,
even in the remote Germany is someone feeling sympathy for you by overcoming that problems,
don’t resign, the children will remember the good time with you
Thanks again. Alex that post made me feel better we all should look at ourself and count our lucky stars. Like you said there is alway someone worse of. I have made Germany thanks ispom
Phil
Downstairs I have a picture on the wall of a lighthouse being battered in a storm.
It reminds me of what life is like sometimes, and how important it is to be an emotionally stable and positive influence in our children's lives.
They too suffer the emotional ups and downs of life. This is all part of growing up.
The kids will come and go into and out of your life. It is unfortunate that it probably happened too soon, and you must be like a rock in their lives and always be there for them, by keeping in contact and showing you care. Maybe you could send them small presents and txt messages (if they have mobiles). You need to be emotionally strong without becoming hard and bitter (not that I think you are).
Stay positive and occupied, and remember that everything turns out for the better, even if we don't always see it at the time. This is where a hobby like astronomy is really great, it doesn't take much to get involved and it is really a positive way to spend your time, if you can draw meaning and wonder from the cosmos around you.
Tony Tony Tony you should start a family practice.
Tony's counselling has helped me, I am now well adjusted and normal.
Phil, do yourself a favour and buy some aperture to help refresh the mind and cleanse the sole, something like a photonic colonic if nothing else it will impress the kids next time around!
if nothing else it will impress the kids next time around!
