Family loss...I'm sad! - Page 2

spacezebra (Petra) · #21 06-08-2006, 08:05 PM

My thoughts are with you.

I too have lost a brother, far too early in life. Treasure the memories.

Take care and come home safe.

Petra

GTB_an_Owl (Geoff) · #22 06-08-2006, 08:26 PM

Scott

Thankyou for turning to your IIS family for a "HUG".
Our thoughts will be with you and family.
Yet another reminder how we take so much for granted in this life.
Hope you pick a nice star for him to travel to.

geoff

astro_nutt · #23 06-08-2006, 08:29 PM

My deepest condolences to you and your family Scott....have a safe trip....
"The world has lost a wonderful person..but heaven has been blessed with an angel."

[1ponders] (Paul) · #24 06-08-2006, 09:08 PM

Terrible news Scott. My deepest condolences to you and your family.

Be well.

norm · #25 06-08-2006, 09:53 PM

Scott,

Although we have never spoken, nor met, its heartening to know that you have shared a very personal moment on the IIS forum. There maybe a lot of knowledgeable, opinionated, eccentric members here, but they all share a common bond - goodwill and friendship.

Please accept my condolences to you and your family.

Gargoyle_Steve (Steve) · #26 06-08-2006, 11:31 PM

I am so moved, and so very very sorry Scott to hear your news.
Spend time with your family and rejoice in Ryan's accomplishments in life.

Just after my 18th birthday my father was taken from us in a car accident, in fact we almost lost my mother as well. I was never able to gain closure or really deal with this fact for many years, until a very special friend in my life - from the US actually

- said the only thing to me that has ever helped, and I hope it helps you now too. She simply said to me:

"Someone else needed an angel, even more than you needed him"

May Ryan live forever in your memories, and in those of everyone whose lives he touched.

johnno · #27 07-08-2006, 03:44 AM

SCOTT,

Like many other Members,We dont know each other,Although I believe we all are Part of a Family here.

I feel so sorry you in your loss,
It is a very sad time.

Please accept our heartfelt Condolences,from Kathy,and Myself.

RYAN

Was lucky,in at least one way.

He had a brother, SCOTT,who quite obviously loved him.

Take Care Mate.

RIP,RYAN

Warm regards.
John

iceman (Mike) · #28 07-08-2006, 06:01 AM

Sorry to hear it Scott. It means a lot that you choose to share your grief with your online friends.

My thoughts are with you and your family.

danielsun · #29 07-08-2006, 06:51 AM

I am very very sorry to hear this bad news. My deepest sympathies to you and yor family Scott.
My thoughts are with you in this very tough time.

Regards Daniel.

Dennis · #30 07-08-2006, 08:51 AM

Dear Scott,

Each of us, it seems, has a path to walk in life. How long for, and in which direction, often appears quite solid and certain. Accidents, illnesses, and other circumstances sometimes cut short this journey, so it is wise to live each day, in love, as if the moment is all we can ever hold and know.

You have loved, and lived your life, with suffering close by, watching your brother and family overcome enormous challenges. The love and strength of your family seems to have enriched you all, despite the suffering you have so clearly faced.

Your love for your family is clearly woven into your words here, and I truly wish you and your family, the healing and comfort you so richly deserve, in the knowledge that your brother’s suffering is now over. May his soul rest in peace.

God bless you, our thoughts are with you.

Dennis & Narelle

wavelandscott (Scott) · #31 07-08-2006, 09:29 AM

All,

Many Many Thanks for your heartfelt thoughts and prayers!

I can say without reservation that I am overwhelmed by the thoughtfulness and support... This is truly a "community" and I greatly value it.

My intent with my original post was simply to help me express in an outward way (at least try) some of what I was feeling on the inside. I was not prepared for the response...

I have been touched deeply by many of the messages in this post and surprised by how many other members have shared some of their own similar experiences and losses.

Words can not express how you all have helped me cope with my grief and how much it means to me.

Most Sincerely,

Scott

middy · #32 07-08-2006, 09:33 AM

Sorry to hear about your loss. Condolences to you and your family.

Dujon · #33 07-08-2006, 10:19 AM

Hello, Scott.

I was saddened to read your post.

Life can be cruel, in many ways. I have lost a father and a brother over the years. My father was 59 years old and my youngest brother just 7 days. My brother I never met, my father I still miss - he died in 1977.

It appears that you had a deep affection for your brother, in which case you too will miss him but never forget him.

Your plight brought to mind the following - if you are not familiar with the piece and have the chance then take the time to read the whole poem (the text is readily available on the Internet). It's a little morbid in that it dwells upon our mortality but at times it can be somewhat comforting.

Please accept my sincerest best wishes. My thoughts go with you.

John

From Gray's "Elegy Written in a Country Church-yard"

The Epitaph

Here rests his head upon the lap of Earth
A youth to Fortune and to Fame unknown.
Fair Science frowned not on his humble birth,
And Melacholy marked him for her own.

Large was his bounty, and his soul sincere,
Heaven did a recompense as largely send:
He gave to Misery all he had, a tear,
He gained from Heaven ('twas all he wish'd) a friend.

No farther seek his merits to disclose,
Or draw his frailties from their dread abode
(There they alike in trembling hope repose),
The bosom of his Father and his God.

By Thomas Gray (1716-71).

ving (David) · #34 07-08-2006, 10:31 AM

sorry to hear of your loss scott. my sympathies to you and your family.

venus (Lydia) · #35 08-08-2006, 01:48 PM

My deepest condolences to you and your family.
When I read your post on the weekend I couldn't bring myself to post, too many memories of my own I'm afraid. I wish you all the best in the future and I like the idea of the 'star' for loved ones, makes one feel how 'special' the 'stars' really are........

cahullian · #36 08-08-2006, 02:06 PM

My family and I are sorry to hear about your loss Scott. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family in this time of loss. Ryan sounds like he was a real Champion and a life so richly lived should be rejoyced, not his passing mourned.

Gazz/Irish

Ron and family

CosMos (Rich) · #37 08-08-2006, 02:36 PM

Sorry to hear of your loss Scott. I too have experienced loss so can comprehend something of what you are going through. You and your family showed great love and courage to accept your brother Ryan for who he was. Unfortunately, many families feel shame and fear when a family member has a mental illness, not against their loved one but against the ignorance and judgements of society.

It is the family that often takes on the role of protector, nurturer and caregiver with very little understanding or experience other than pure love and devotion. Ryan was and still is an inspiration to yourself, your family is also an inspiration to others. By coming on to this forum and sharing your struggle and grief, hopefully others will be inspired to reach out and receive help.

I work for a place called Supporting Families in Mental Illness that supports family members with a listening ear, advocacy, a voice, information and skills. We used to be called the Schizophrenia Fellowship though our focus is now on the family itself and covers all the major mental illnesses. I mention this because other families here in NZ may be in a similar situation and may be able to reach out.

Anyway Scott, thank you for sharing a little of the bright star that is your brother Ryan. May he rest in peace and may you and your family find peace in time.

Richard "CosMos" Moss

jmb · #38 08-08-2006, 06:32 PM

Hi Scott
I was very moved by the response to your sad news...
Your brother was fortunate to experience a loving family, and I am sure your loss can only be measured by the amount of love you showed him.
Seems to me Ryan was special...he managed to bring complete strangers together, to offer friendship and support!!
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time.
regards
JAnine

Striker (Tony) · #39 08-08-2006, 07:10 PM

My thoughts are with you too.
I have some experience I wished I never had of loosing my younger brother of mine at the age of 21 years old not something I wish on anyone.....

All I can say is things do get better.

TidaLpHasE · #40 08-08-2006, 07:15 PM

Hello Scott, i am sorry to hear of your sad time.

Time will ease the pain you are feeling, and you can always hold the memories, good and bad, with you wherever you are.

I still talk to my dad, tell him i miss him, wish he was here.
The memories keep me going and always point me in the positive direction of the good times we had.

Keep ya chin up.