Hi Dave,
A 12" is a big instrument. Unless you have a wagon, it will take up the whole length of the passenger side of a sedan. An 8" would take up the back seat, or, if split fold, some of the back seat and into the boot.
An 8" scope is no slouch. Last year, a mate brought over his 8" dob, and we did a side-by-side comparison with it and my then solid tube 17.5" from my backyard in Maroubra. Where we spied 6 moons of Saturn in the big dob, 5 were visible in his. The galaxies we managed to pin from town in the 17.5" were all visible in the 8", not as bright, but very much there.
I'm mentioning this so you've got some reference to go by. Like Brian said, an 8" will serve you a life time, and without the bulk. You do need to consider your car to transport the thing. Or, you can always just get a semi-trailer and go down the 50" monster dob way,

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If you do go down the 12" route, and you find it difficult to manage, you can always do a DIY on it. A solid tube is not the only possibility. And the DIY option can then be configured to how you budget also develops, with or without altering the tube. Simple push-pull to start, then add the Argo-Navis, and then the whole hog goto option.
If Sydney's skies clear for the 12'th of June, me and a few others will be at Katoomba Airfield. There I'll be also taking an 8" f/4 dob. There might be one or two other GSO 8" dobs too, and maybe a 12". You'd be most welcome to join us and see what each scope offers, and how they affect each of their owners mobility and ease of use. Check out the 'Star Parties' forum for details. My 8" f/4 sits inside its mount, and sits upright in the back of my Mazda tribute, right along side my 17.5". Very comfy.