Support Group for those with "AAS" - Page 4

Redshift (Phil) · #61 02-09-2009, 08:34 PM

Yikes! I've just taken up this hobby. I'd better be careful.
And what was that look I got all about when I suggested an Argo Navis for father's day? Hmmm.

acropolite (Phil) · #62 02-09-2009, 08:35 PM

HRH shows a passing interest, even extending to coming to Astrofest. She does however, get very "edgy" about my on line astronomy activities.

AdrianF (Adrian) · #63 02-09-2009, 08:41 PM

I don't have this problem my wife is very supportive and actually encourages me to get out and have a go. Marg also comes out to the scope to have look at what I'm doing ( probably making sure I'm not perving on the neighbours). Believe it or not she also encouraged me to come up to Duckadang as I almost chickened out coming up. The only thing I have to watch is spending too much money Marg don't mind me spending as long as I need it and not just a want and it gets discussed first, fair enough and it works both ways. We both have expensive hobbies me and astronomy and Marg with machine embroidery and other handcrafts and we both have motorbikes both expensive to maintain.

Adrian

jjjnettie (Jeanette) · #64 02-09-2009, 08:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Omaroo

You guys are simpy the best. Thank you. I feel much better tonight!

Sorry Jeanette - I seem to have highjacked your thread..

Nothing to be sorry about Chris. This is what this threads about isn't it?

jjjnettie (Jeanette) · #65 02-09-2009, 08:52 PM

Phil, you're fortunate in that you can combine your visit at Astrofest with visits to family and friends. It was lovely to see both you and Liz again. So sorry I left without even saying goodbye. My mind was on other things Sunday morning.

erick (Eric) · #66 02-09-2009, 09:13 PM

My lovely wife is not anti-, but doesn't understand why I like. She has quizzed me closely and has come to the view that it maintains my sanity so OK. Simultaneously she seems to accept that it is an incurable mental instability on my part - the word "crazy" comes out several times, but lovingly, thank goodness. The expenditure, however, can become an issue........

Also fortunate that we have "abandoned" the children - they can look after themselves now - so only two of us at our home.

GrahamL · #67 02-09-2009, 09:56 PM

If your intrest has moved from visual to photography is there a change in the time spent outdoors ?.. while I sure don't know for sure I do see a lot of stareing at laptop screens for long periods through the night
with photography , followed by long periods of stareing at them again
through the day to make things better ?,If there is any truth in that
couldn't imagine a partner really thinking thats a really positive for any relationship .

Bit o comprimise works well at times

marki · #68 02-09-2009, 10:01 PM

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Originally Posted by nightstalker

If your intrest has moved from visual to photography is there a change in the time spent outdoors ?.. while I sure don't know for sure I do see a lot of stareing at laptop screens for long periods through the night
with photography , followed by long periods of stareing at them again
through the day to make things better ?,If there is any truth in that
couldn't imagine a partner really thinking thats a really positive for any relationship .

Bit o comprimise works well at times

Automation is a wonderful thing

.

Mark

jjjnettie (Jeanette) · #69 02-09-2009, 10:14 PM

Astro photography does take up significantly more of your time than Visual. I guess one must question ones relationship if you find that you prefer looking at a computer screen to interacting with your partner. I know what i prefer.

mithrandir (Andrew) · #70 02-09-2009, 10:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Omaroo

You guys are simpy the best. Thank you. I feel much better tonight!

You're forgiven. Getting something off your chest can be one of the best steps to recovery. In the last month, I've lost a sister, one of my workmates his father, another his mother-in-law, and another is off with family for her mother-in-law's last few days.

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Originally Posted by Omaroo

Sorry Jeanette - I seem to have highjacked your thread..

Back on the topic.

SWMBO Version 2 is not interested, but only objects to the $$$$$$$$$$$, not the time. She did let me buy my C8 as a birthday present to myself. The half a dozen eyepieces, Barlows, 2 focal reducers, flip mirror, DSLR, CCD, guide scope, 3 cases and a cabinet to put the lot in caused a number of words.

I still need a right angle finder, another CCD and another flip mirror. There are more cross words in my future

While out walking the dog, tonight she noticed there was "something bright" close to the moon. There is still hope.

Davros (Lauren) · #71 02-09-2009, 11:31 PM

I am kinda lucky, she wanted to turn the garage into a media room and i stuck an old 1949 landrover in it and half pulled it apart. Then i keep taking off for work, uni or camping and she doesn't give me too much grief. Its only when i buy new things for the toys that she cracks it. I am about to off load some shares though so i am contemplating new toys.
So when is the working bee at your place JJJ to build your Obs.

Octane (Humayun) · #72 02-09-2009, 11:57 PM

Probably because I'm not married, I don't understand...

But, do you work for your money, or, do you have to sign a clause when you get married, that, whatever you earn is split in two?

It's your damned money, you should be allowed to spend it any way you want, so long as the bills are paid!

Also, buying astronomy gear is much better than pissing your money up against a wall or wasting it on gambling.

Regards,
Humayun

GTB_an_Owl (Geoff) · #73 03-09-2009, 12:11 AM

Oooooooooh! you have a lot to learn "H"

unless you want to stay single that is

geoff

AdrianF (Adrian) · #74 03-09-2009, 07:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Octane

Probably because I'm not married, I don't understand...

But, do you work for your money, or, do you have to sign a clause when you get married, that, whatever you earn is split in two?

It's your damned money, you should be allowed to spend it any way you want, so long as the bills are paid!

Also, buying astronomy gear is much better than pissing your money up against a wall or wasting it on gambling.

Regards,
Humayun

I agree that we do work hard for our money but........ Marriage is a partnership and everything is a shared commodity. My wife works hard too 5 days a week and before she starts work she as to travel 90k each way Roma to Mitchell and then as to put in an 8 hour day as an Archive Officer. So the way I see it is Marg and I have every right to know what the other is spending before it happens if its a large sum of money. We have been together now for 32 years and we find this works well for us.

Adrian

jjjnettie (Jeanette) · #75 03-09-2009, 07:19 AM

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Originally Posted by GTB_an_Owl

Oooooooooh! you have a lot to learn "H"

unless you want to stay single that is

geoff

Then there's always the old, What's mine is mine and what's your's is ours. That kinda strains things too.

iceman (Mike) · #76 03-09-2009, 07:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Octane

Probably because I'm not married, I don't understand...

But, do you work for your money, or, do you have to sign a clause when you get married, that, whatever you earn is split in two?

It's your damned money, you should be allowed to spend it any way you want, so long as the bills are paid!

Also, buying astronomy gear is much better than pissing your money up against a wall or wasting it on gambling.

Regards,
Humayun

LOL Poor H, so much to learn young padawan

Unfortunately it's never as easy, or as black and white as that.

My wife doesn't "work" - or I should say, doesn't get paid by an employer. But staying at home and looking after 3 kids and the house, while I'm gone for 12 hours a day, is damn hard "work".

On the odd occassion I've had to stay at home and do the "mr Mom" thing, I can tell you it's no easy job!

On topic, my hobbies are never hobbies. They turn into obsessions. So it makes it harder, especially when I have more than one going at once.

My lovely wife has no interest in astronomy but I'm pretty sure she understand why I love it. I'm pretty sure she thinks it's better than my previous obsession of "online games". LOL

lacad01 (Adam) · #77 03-09-2009, 07:49 AM

Sounds like your situation is pretty similar to mine Mike

Wifey doesn't mind my obsession with astronomy so long as there's a balance, bills are paid before spending on the next gizmo, etc. I also have the added bonus that my youngest loves to look through the scopes at any opportunity

erick (Eric) · #78 03-09-2009, 07:56 AM

Had to take my wife to the airport for an early flight this morning. In the car she admitted that the almost full Moon and Jupiter low together in the western sky was indeed "Lovely"

Darth Wader (Wade) · #79 03-09-2009, 08:53 AM

I have actually been feeling very guilty about the hobby recently. My wife gave birth to our daughter 8 weeks ago, and whilst I help out wherever possible, I just don't feel right getting up at 4am to stargaze while she's feeding our daughter (I'd gladly do it and give her a break, but she's breastfeeding). Same again when I had a great chance to view Mercury as the Sun was setting the other day and she was inside giving our son his dinner - I quickly had a look at it, then packed up and came inside out of sheer guilt. I recently joined my local Astro society and couldn't make my first monthly meeting because the kids were giving her hell, and I just didn't feel right leaving her in that situation on her own.

Am I nuts, a good husband or just a sucker?

erick (Eric) · #80 03-09-2009, 09:09 AM

Children are now, cannot be put off for the future. Stars and planets will still be there when your time comes - promise!

Spoken by someone who wasn't addicted to stargazing through raising children, so what do I know