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Originally Posted by strongmanmike
Good, because it is certainly the case.
Also good, because that is just basic fairness
Only partly true, being dismissive of violence towards women is certainly very wrong because it certainly happens at unacceptable levels..but the reality is that a lot of domestic and family violence is also perpetrated by women and just not reported or highlighted, or when it is reported it is dismissed as somehow different and caused by mitigating factors far more than it is for men.
A commonly held understanding in the family violence narrative, like doing abdominal crunches will make you lose weight, seems perfectly logical and infomercials tell us this on a daily basis...but this is simply not true. In the case of family and domestic violence, it is certainly a little more complicated.
There are many studies in various journals and from many places around the World that point to a different reality on many levels when it comes to domestic, relationship and family violence. It is our perceptions that cloud our judgement, it is easy to believe what we hear most often but if you actually delve in more deeply on these sorts of issues, things can start to appear different or at least your long held understandings can be challenged.
Here is one list of about 286 studies that suggests an alternative reality to the popular perceptions...perhaps they were made up..?.. but if you google each study separately they are all real and can be read for yourself 
REFERENCES EXAMINING ASSAULTS BY WOMEN ON THEIR SPOUSES OR MALE PARTNERS: AN ANNOTATED BIBLIOGRAPHY
This is not to say that there aren't also studies that have different findings but most people would not realise that these 286 studies exist.
In the end, all I am saying is in this current push to curb family and domestic violence, understand the differences between Intimate Partner violence and Family Violence and even if they are somewhat less in number, let's not forget all the male victims of family and domestic violence, nor think that women and mothers don't perpetrate domestic and family violence, because they do and significantly so.
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Hey Mike Thanks for sharing some light in this space on this topic. It is much appreciated
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When I think about domestic violence I'm thinking about ultimately the death of woman in the hands of men. And it is here that women are being killed at the rate of 1 every 4 days for 2016.
The facts are men are physically stronger and have an obvious advantage when it comes to a violent situation.
Hi Leon I sympathize with what your saying but your initial post seemed to be about your feelings and how upset you were about what had happened to you.
Cheers Julian
