To Report or Not Report

[TrevorW]

Thanks guys for all the feedback and if it was just me I had to worry about I wouldn't

a) have hesitated to have retaliated there and then
b) reported the little MF'er to the Police (well he was actually bigger than me)

and as Marki points out the judicial system in this state has been let down by the Judges letting off these hoons lightly.

Unfortunately my wife would stress and become paranoid about the whole issue especially such things a retribution etc which would not help her MS.

In some ways my post was a way of telling the truth to unrelated parties thereby getting it off my chest you know a burden shared is a burdened halved.

I grew up with two brothers and we used to fight a lot, we had no father so to speak and my mum was old school so she'd belt us with anything she could get her hands on.

I started doing MA on and off since I was 15 mainly because I was a nerd at school and was picked on at times.

He didn't really hurt me that much the bruises I'm used too I'd get plenty of them free sparring when I did MA. I probably didn't retaliate immediately as trained because I was shocked by the audacity of the punk striking me with a stick while I was still holding onto my dogs lead.

If there was some way I could report him anonymously I'd consider that.

Thanks for your thoughts.

[BerrieK]

Originally Posted by strongmanmike

It amazes me that anyone here would hestitate in giving the advice of immediately reporting the incident to Police to find that fuccer and get him in jail asap - SIMPLE!

I shake my head

well actually...I am not surprised

Mike

Geez Mike go easy!!!



Trevor has indicated that his wife is in ill health and he is worried about the effects on her if he reports the incident, thus there are more things to consider here than to 'find that fuccer and get him in jail asap'. Same as if a female forum member had started the thread asking for the same advice with an unwell spouse to consider.

My personal responce was not hesitant - just considering several points. My last comment re the agony aunt was aimed at myself for drivelling rather being as succinct as you. To summarise it for you: report the 'fuccer and get him in jail asap' as you so eloquently put it- although this is easier said than done under the circumstances.

Kerrie

[Jen]

Ok jen jen's 5 cent's hehe
Trevor your a brave man for standing up to him you could have gotton yourself into all sorts of trouble but secondly you should have told your wife little white lies can end up much worse in the end
Speaking as a girl that was in a 10 year relationship and was beaten up on a regular basis for 7 years i used to tell people or sorts of lies about where my black eyes came from i wish i had someone that could have helped me out i was too scared to leave then one day it just got two much and i finally went to the police and put an order on him yay go me it was the best thing i had ever done in my life now im not afraid to speak my mind and i wont take none of that abuse ever again

At least report the incident Trevor even if its not much there will be something on record if this guy offends again
PS i hope your arms are ok

[marki]

Originally Posted by Jen

Speaking as a girl that was in a 10 year relationship and was beaten up on a regular basis for 7 years i used to tell people or sorts of lies about where my black eyes came from i wish i had someone that could have helped me out i was too scared to leave then one day it just got two much and i finally went to the police and put an order on him yay go me it was the best thing i had ever done in my life now im not afraid to speak my mind and i wont take none of that abuse ever again

Good on ya Jen. I have never understood why some women stay in abusive relationships. My cousins husband used to knock her about that was until her brother and myself payed him a little visit and gave him a dose of his own medicine. Funnily enough he never did it again but hey these guys are just cowards right.

Mark

[starlooker (Duc)]

Way to go Jen!

Trevor, I am glad you came out of this one relatively unscathed, but maybe you should either choose and alternate route/time for the near future for your walks. Or maybe even have some company. This thug may arm himself/bring reinforcements for another encounter. Take care.

EDIT: Kerrie, you would make a wonderful agony aunt.

[TrevorW]

Thanks guys in some ways I'm sorry I mentioned it as I did'nt want to cause angst amongst IIS members.

Suffice it too say I believe it was probably more a case of me being in the wrong place at the wrong time and this lout taking his frustrations out on me in a cowardly manner.

I doubt it will happen again remember is was 7:00am in the morning and at this time usually these sort out too drugged out to even get out of bed.

Cheers

[Jen]

Originally Posted by marki

Good on ya Jen. I have never understood why some women stay in abusive relationships. My cousins husband used to knock her about that was until her brother and myself payed him a little visit and gave him a dose of his own medicine. Funnily enough he never did it again but hey these guys are just cowards right.

Mark

good on ya

[matt]

Onya Trev

Although I don't see why you should have to change your routine and/or way of life just avoid another potential run-in with this twit

I know the reality is it would probably be the easier option...I just don't support it; more out of frustration than anything else.

Do what you have to. It's not worth the drama.

And sorry to hear about your painful past, Jen. There's just no excuse for domestic violence. None.

If your ex has any brains he would have high-tailed it off to counselling, anger management classes etc and begged for your forgiveness at the end of a process...which I imagine never really ends for angry and abusive men.

Glad you are so happy these days

[Jen]

Originally Posted by matt

And sorry to hear about your painful past, Jen. There's just no excuse for domestic violence. None.

If your ex has any brains he would have high-tailed it off to counselling, anger management classes etc and begged for your forgiveness at the end of a process...which I imagine never really ends for angry and abusive men.

Glad you are so happy these days

Thanks Matt yeah 10 years on he still tries to beg for my forgiveness as i have daughter to him but i put my hand up high and say whatever, too late buddy i got meself a real man now who treats me like a princess

[starlooker (Duc)]

Originally Posted by Jen

i got meself a real man now who treats me like a princess

That's awesome!

[TrevorW]

and a princess you are

:thum bsup:

[Jen]

awwwwwwww thanks guys

[stephenb (Stephen)]

In the same position, yes I would report this the police. Yes he may be just a local hoodlum, but the fact that he has assaulted the female is a disturbing sign. What will he be doing in 5, 10 or 20 years time? I detest anyone who even raises a hand of a female, and I have always considered them as gutless.

Look, your local police may already be aware of them both anyway? And they may not necessarily be able to do anything about this particular incident but it will make the police aware of them and who knows? Maybe your chat with the local police which might initiate a more formal inquiry? And if the WA police are anything like VicPol, they are under-resourced and spend more time on paper work than out in the van. And after all that they are let down by the judicial system and our "softly softly" society. There is no harm in popping down to the local watchhouse and having a chat over th counter.

Even for your own peace of mind, write down the incident on a notepad (date, time, outline of incident etc) and file it away.

Would this have occurred to you 20 or 30 years ago? I think not. And back then the local Seargent may have paid the little thug a visit, but these days there would be an outcry. A sign of the times I guess.

Good luck with it all.