You are what you tell yourself

[casstony]

Regarding the topic of "you are what you tell yourself", I find this much easier to apply to others than myself. Once I had kids I developed a habit of complimenting them every day about their appearance, what a great friend they are, how good their spelling is, etc and the habit is easy to carry over to other people. It's a lot harder to avoid negative self images.

Regarding target fixation, I didn't learn about this simple yet powerful technique until I learned to hang glide in my twenties. By about the third day of training I was launching off a medium size hill and would automatically head for the lone tree in the paddock, which fortunately was out of range. This skill became very handy for gliding of course, and I transfered it to dirt bike riding where I found I was suddenly able to ride on the narrow ridge between wheel ruts by concentrating on the ridge. I also managed to "pick the gap" in a herd of cows in the only car accident I've had - the gap wasn't wide enough for the car but a cow bounced up over the passenger side of the car instead of coming right through the windscreen. I hope the technique is taught to new drivers these days.

[DobDobDob (Ron)]

Originally Posted by casstony

I hope the technique is taught to new drivers these days.

So do I Tony

This approach is widely used in sport, in fact it's the only way of raising the bar to new heights. Every time a record is broken it is because the athlete focused on the previous record and then slightly bettered it.

In other words if you set a target anything less than the best, that is what you will achieve. That is not to say that simply thinking and wanting a record will ensure you get it, however not thinking about it will certainly never give it to you.

The immutable law of philosophy, "you are what you think" et al "you reap what you sew" and a million others, all reflect the same wisdom, and all mean exactly what this thread espouses.

Thus, if you focus on something, believe it totally, and take physical steps to ensure it's fruition, and providing it is possible, you are setting yourself up to achieve it. There is no guarantee of course, but just wishful thinking alone will probably not yield the desired result either.

Here ends the lesson

[jjjnettie (Jeanette)]

The Power of Positive Thinking.
It's true!

[DobDobDob (Ron)]

Originally Posted by jjjnettie

The Power of Positive Thinking.
It's true!

Are you sure about that? just kidding

[jjjnettie (Jeanette)]

Don't overlook how negative people can affect you as well.
They can drain you so much that it can take days to build yourself up again.

As Neil from the Young Ones says "Dont bring me down Man"

[casstony]

Originally Posted by jjjnettie

Don't overlook how negative people can affect you as well.
They can drain you so much that it can take days to build yourself up again.

As Neil from the Young Ones says "Dont bring me down Man"

I deal with negative people by avoiding contact with them, though it would be nice if there was an easy way to open thier eyes to the pointless harm they cause to themselves and others. The avoidance tactic doesn't work so well if you have a negative thinker in the family though.

[xelasnave]

We were always on the positive thinking trip in sales and when someone was negative we would cross our fingers like a crusfix and hold it up saying..."bad seed..bad seed" ..I played a game with the staff if one said something negative I would say ï beg your pardon?" they would repeat what they said then so would I ..until they changed it to positive.. example "That house is over priced!"..pardon? "er that home is not competatively priced in the current market."... and who want to live in a "dead end street" when you can live in a..... come on its easy.
alex

[DobDobDob (Ron)]

Originally Posted by jjjnettie

As Neil from the Young Ones says "Dont bring me down Man"

I unashamedly declare loving that guy!!!!!