Hi Merlin
I did some checking in CCDSoft and found the following that "might" help you get the ST-4 talking to your AutoStar.
I haven't been able to test this as I had to shut down everything rather quickly when an electrical storm came out of nowhere.
In CCDSoft under Camera, go to Autoguide then settings, highlight the Advanced button, about halfway down is a heading, Autoguide Using, in the drop down box are 3 selections, Camera Relays, Relay API (Serial) and Direct Guide. This is only a guess but the Relay API (Serial) may be the setting you are after, don't know for sure but I seem to remember that API had something to do with ASCOM and The Sky software. Further down is a check box with Simultaneous x-axis and y-axis relay activation, you will probably have to trial and error that.
Sorry I can't help anymore, I really don't want to muck around with my setting when they are working fine.
Cheers
JohnG