Drew, I have the identical mount that came with my 6" Newtonian. I purchased the setup secondhand from Astro Optical Supplies in Crow's Nest North Sydney in about 1980.
I just went and dug the mount out in the shed. Mine still turns OK
Have you removed the round black cap shown uppermost in your second photo? It allows you to look inside that T housing and is opposite the hidden end of the RA axis. With a torch you can see the top and bottom of the Dec shaft inside the housing which may or may not help. Maybe get some penetrating oil in there.
The bottom line is that I think you need to get the correct Pin Spanner on the bottom nut/thing that you already mentioned and hold the casting which the tube assembly is sitting in. I am assuming that we are dealing with a Right Hand thread. That is,
Lefty loosey/Righty tighty!
If you can undo that thing a couple of threads then you might be able to
gently tap on it and drive the shaft up a little and loosen it.
To get the correct Pin Spanner, you might try Astro Optics,Bintel or a Bicycle shop in Melbourne. Maybe Astro or Bintel would do the service for you.
I hope this all makes sense because it is not always easy to visualise what someone else is writing.
I know what
I mean
Rgds
Michael