Hi Bobby,
I'm using the 1.25" diagonal that came standard with my scope, my barlow is a 3x Televue, and my eyepieces are a set of 1.25" Meade Super Plossls from the eyepiece deal Meade had a year or two.
Firstly, sorry I should've been a bit more specific, I've only just recently bought the barlow and generally only use it for imaging, but when I do use the barlow for viewing I use the order I described. Having a full range of EP's gives no real advantage to use the barlow except for the eye relief it brings when viewing. Currently for me it's a trade off of no eye relief (not using the barlow) or more weight using the barlow when viewing, I'm trying to avoid the extra weight of the barlow when viewing for the moment as my scope is still requires fitment of a counter balance mod and with the full optical train of barlow + diag + EPs' it becomes VERY rear heavy. When I have added the counter balance I'll use the barlow more regularly when viewing.
Regarding the weights of each piece, I dont have any scales to accurately check the weights, but I would say my barlow would be slightly heavier then my diag. (I'm using the smaller 1.25" equip. remember).
This is my reasoning behind the order I use when I do view with the barlow.....
When inserting diag. first, only an inch or so is held inside the microfocuser, with next to no weight of the diag. inside the scope leaving most of the diag. weight + barlow + EP outside the scope. When inserting the barlow first about 2" are inside the microfocuser (in this 2" is all of the lense(s) of the barlow = large proportion of the barlow weight) thus only a small proportion of barlow + diag. + EP are outside.
I understand, and completely agree with having as much weight towards the pivot points to help create as much of a naturally balanced scope as possible, however having the diag. first with only that small amount of connector (approx. 1" in lenght) and basically no weight inside the scope and all that weight hanging in mid-air makes me a little uneasy when compared to having over a 1/3 of the barlow length (2" out of 5" total lenght) +most of its weight inside. I feel it gives more strenght to the optical train this way then diag. first approach. Each to their own though.