Support Group for those with "AAS"

jjjnettie (Jeanette) · #1 02-09-2009, 04:02 PM

"AAS" Anti Astronomy Spouses
Winge and vent here.

Omaroo (Chris Malikoff) · #2 02-09-2009, 04:04 PM

Not a problem for me any more Jeanette - mine up and left. My interest in astronomy had a lot to do with it.

Oh well - much more astronomy now.

jjjnettie (Jeanette) · #3 02-09-2009, 04:08 PM

Mine has asked me to cut back to just one night a week and give IIS a rest for a while too.

Benno85 (Ben) · #4 02-09-2009, 04:10 PM

I'm a major recipient of the AAS Syndrome. More than anything the one thing that annoys me the most is the fact that I don't try and force my wife to spend hours outside with me or have any interest in astronomy, yet she feels the need to continually abuse and put me down for having an interest.

Yes my timing could be better, we have a 3yr old son and number two is on the way, but still, where does the line get drawn??

P.S. I absolutley love my wife, just wish she could be a bit more accommodating.

Benno!!

pgc hunter · #5 02-09-2009, 04:10 PM

I'm single so I can do and buy whatever I want

Benno85 (Ben) · #6 02-09-2009, 04:11 PM

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Originally Posted by pgc hunter

I'm single so I can do and buy whatever I want

jjjnettie (Jeanette) · #7 02-09-2009, 04:11 PM

So I'm taking up SN searches so I'll be outside even more and won't have to hear him complain.

Ric · #8 02-09-2009, 04:15 PM

I'm lucky, my lovely wife encourages my hobby and then suggests that I should hurry up and build the observatory so I'll be more comfortable with my imaging.

Cheers

Octane (Humayun) · #9 02-09-2009, 04:17 PM

+1 for being able to spend what you want, do what you want, when you want.

Regards,
Humayun

jjjnettie (Jeanette) · #10 02-09-2009, 04:18 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Benno85

Yes my timing could be better, we have a 3yr old son and number two is on the way, but still, where does the line get drawn??

P.S. I absolutley love my wife, just wish she could be a bit more accommodating.

Benno!!

It's hard, having small children. She'd be feeling jealous that you have time to have an outside interest while her life revolves solely around the kids and the house.

jjjnettie (Jeanette) · #11 02-09-2009, 04:21 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ric

I'm lucky, my lovely wife encourages my hobby and then suggests that I should hurry up and build the observatory so I'll be more comfortable with my imaging.

Cheers

My beautiful observatory after 2 years, still sits in 2 pieces in the front paddock. The dome part is home to tree ferns.

renormalised (Carl) · #12 02-09-2009, 04:27 PM

Well, I have no problems in that apartment....I'm single as well. However, i do have some strong feelings on this. If they're whining about it all the time and want you to give it up or cut back, throw down the gauntlet. Say, "Ok, I'll cut back, but only if you...<insert something they like/do here>...stop/cutback on this". Which is fair enough, but let's see just how long they'll go for, if they do anything at all. Problem with people is, if you ask them to do something, they'll get on their high horse and go to town on the issue, though it's nothing but them being overly selfish. Even if you did cut back, I'll bet that what they want from you, they end up forgetting about anyway and they stay the same miserable lot they were before.

toryglen-boy (Duncan) · #13 02-09-2009, 04:32 PM

"She who must be obeyed" is wonderful, and very encouraging of anything i do.

She did get a bit put out that i was out there all night, so as a compromise, i setup remote access with VNC to the controller laptop, so i remote control it with EQDIR and SKY6, and take images with the Canon software .... without having to move my behind from the couch

cuddles, smooches, and imaging

hoorah !!

sheeny (Al) · #14 02-09-2009, 04:34 PM

Back in the '80s my then wife started out supportive, but ended up being an AAS. Apparently I wasn't spending enough time inside... (at least I was at home!

) The pressure eventually got so much I sold the scope and got out of it (I wasn't doing much by that stage anyway). It didn't help, we ended up divorced anyway

.

My currently partner, Lyn, has no interest but seems quite supportive. I guess I still suffer from the "once bitten twice shy" syndrome though... I keep waiting for it to change... Hopefully it won't though

. I am very careful not to just assume I can do too much.

Al.

Benno85 (Ben) · #15 02-09-2009, 04:35 PM

My nightly schedule usually goes something like this:

Home at 6pm, dinner by 7pm, play time with my son and then put him to be by 8:30pm, in between all of that there is cleaning up/folding washing etc, and the tv is ALWAYS on to whatever my wife wants, so she's usually tuned out to most of what's going on.

Then she kicks a stink when I want to head out the back as she goes to bed, playing the classic "we never spend any time together"......WELL TURN THE DAMN TV OFF!!!!!!!

Geeze it's good getting this stuff off my chest, cheers for starting the thread Jeanette!!!

FredSnerd (Claude) · #16 02-09-2009, 04:36 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ric

I'm lucky, my lovely wife encourages my hobby and then suggests that I should hurry up and build the observatory so I'll be more comfortable with my imaging.

Cheers

Hey Ric, I reckon you got the bestest Avitar. Where'd you get it?

Gallifreyboy · #17 02-09-2009, 04:36 PM

Well Jeanette, as a male I perceive you do have some bargaining power with regards to withdrawal of various privileges for your spouse that a family friendly site such as this will not discuss further

. Don't give up what you love, just find a balance where everyone (especially you) is happy.

Life is too short to deprive yourself.

kinetic (Steve) · #18 02-09-2009, 04:40 PM

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Originally Posted by jjjnettie

So I'm taking up SN searches so I'll be outside even more and won't have to hear him complain.

Ohh JJJ

<swoons>

Do you like Adelaide weather?

Seriously, I'm lucky, I've got a supportive partner.
She lets me just do my thing with no complaints.
But I'm realistic, I never let it take over my life so much
that my kids suffer or she feels left out.
I think if you let any hobby do that then you're just plain
self centred.

Having said that it would be heaven to have a partner that
shared the same enthusiasm I have for it. Nothings perfect.

Steve

DJDD · #19 02-09-2009, 04:46 PM

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Originally Posted by jjjnettie

My beautiful observatory after 2 years, still sits in 2 pieces in the front paddock. The dome part is home to tree ferns.

i think i remember when you bought the observatory and so I thought it would be up by now.

maybe too many SN searches?

still, tree ferns probably like a shady place to grow.

or am i mixing that up with someone else on the forum?

renormalised (Carl) · #20 02-09-2009, 04:47 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Benno85

My nightly schedule usually goes something like this:

Home at 6pm, dinner by 7pm, play time with my son and then put him to be by 8:30pm, in between all of that there is cleaning up/folding washing etc, and the tv is ALWAYS on to whatever my wife wants, so she's usually tuned out to most of what's going on.

Then she kicks a stink when I want to head out the back as she goes to bed, playing the classic "we never spend any time together"......WELL TURN THE DAMN TV OFF!!!!!!!

Geeze it's good getting this stuff off my chest, cheers for starting the thread Jeanette!!!

I'll bet she's never bothered to ask you what you'd like to do...I also bet she's never bothered to even ask what it is you do with the scopes or even have a look through them. I also bet that if she did look through the scope and saw something spectacular, you'd never be able to drag her away from the eyepiece.