Baz,
I agree with ozstockman... the Serial Port on any computer is ALWAYS a male DB9 connector which needs a cable with a female DB9 connector. You are possibly confusing the Video Out socket which is a female connector (but with more pins than a serial port).
I made a cable to go from my laptop USB port (via a USB/RS232 converter) to the telescope's hand control RS232 port by getting a wireable Female DB9-to-RJ45 (8 pin CAT 5) adapter from Jaycar Electronics then making an RJ11 (4 pin telephone) to RJ45 (8 pin Cat 5) cable so the RJ45 plug goes into the adapter socket and the RJ11 plug goes into the comms port on the Telescope's hand control.
You can even get a ready-made coiled telephone handset cable which uses RJ11 connectors on both ends, cut off one of them and get an RJ45 connector crimped onto the cable in its place.
I align the scope, then use it with my Stellarium program to point and go to wherever I need to. The cursor crosshairs on the Stellarium screen even move with the telescope.
If you need any details email me at
robert_smeallie@yahoo.com.au and I can send them to you.
Robster
Woy Woy NSW Aust