I don't think this will help but your description reminded me of this.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pk7yqlTMvp8
If your tripod it like I think it is (picture may help), my best suggestion is don't extend the legs. I have something similar and while I never did it I thought that setting a fixed height and then putting a bolt through to hold it all tight might help. But in the end it is a light weight tripod.