Thanks for all the responses.
By grab and go, I mean something I can take out of the garage, plonk down and get 5-15 minutes viewing without the kids noticing I am gone (that sounds terrible, but c'est la vie

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As far as mount is concerned, I have a truly terrible GEM mount, and would like to get a decent alt-az. So mount definitely has to be in the package.
I looked at the smallish goto telescopes, but as I said, it seems to take away too much of my relatively low budget away from optics to put into electronics. Besides, the objects that a goto is handy for are hard enough to see with my 8" reflector, let alone something with 1/5 of the light gathering capability.
Eyepieces I don't want to scrimp on, so a TV 3-6 nalger will give me planetaries of 100-200x depending on seeing, that I can adjust to suit, with an 8-24 Baader for brighter clusters, with the upside of usability on the dob.
I have previously owned a very ordinary 90mm achro, and don't remember Jupiter being that bad - but then again, it was hard enough to focus let alone to get it to stop wobbling long enough to see anything. I was hoping the ED glass would make up for the loss of aperture, but it seems not...
I really would like to keep the scope and mount around 1k, but I suppose I could go over a bit by sacrificing the Baader zoom and putting up with the GSOs a bit longer.
However, to my mind, I need a general purpose skyglow filter and I need an adjustable planetary, so $500 has to stay there, leaving an absolute maximum of $1300 for the scope. The problem is that as soon as I go over 1k AUD, GST etc comes in, so an extra $300 only gets me about an extra $100 in value...
Again, thanks for everyone's thoughts...