Update:
Well I've put it all together.

Here is the accessory socket and connecting RCA's. Honestly it would've been cheaper and easier to buy RCA cables. The gauge of the wire was a bit thick for the RCA connectors and were a pain to fiddle with.
All the connectors I soldered in.

Dimmer Switches and connectors and heat pads. I had to trim especially the secondary by 2/3 at least to get it to wrap around the stalk.

I just used velcro to fit the switches for now. I may screw them on later.

The heat pad is just taped on to the stalk and along the spider vein.

Wrapped around the Finderscope and focusser. I'll ditch the velcro pocket for now. I'll use a wide hair band or sweat band to keep them on and insulated for now.

The cables need neatening still.
As for the heat that the grips put out, the ones that I left large are noticeably warm even when turned up onto half.
As for the Secondary pad, it seems it does feel warm to touch even when turned right up, although it appears that the heat it does produce is being completely absorbed by the secondary stalk, and it keeps it warm to touch rather than the cool steel feel.
I only tested this in the living room and am yet to test it outside in the cool nights air. I am interested to see if the secondary temperature will be enough to keep it above dew point if it is able to keep the stalk just warm...?
I didn't end up using the 4th heat pad for the meantime.