Hi and

to IceInSpace! (and welcome back to astronomy!)
A lot sure has changed in the last 5 years, let alone the last 20 years.
I'll see if I can answer your questions:
1) You really want the focal length for planetary imaging - so the 8" or 10" SCT's will be better for planetary imaging than the refractors. I use a 12" Newt Reflector. Anthony Wesley uses a 14.5" Reflector. Trevor Barry uses a 16" Reflector. Others use 14" SCT's from Celestron and Meade.
So it's really up to you and your budget. If you're limited for space, a 10/12/14" SCT would be the best.
2) With those webcams, you're right - you'll likely use 30fps normally, and sometimes 15 or 60fps depending on the object you're imaging.
You do still need the telescope/mount to be tracking the object. But it doesn't need to be perfectly polar aligned because your exposures will be short. So if you have to make adjustments from time to time to keep it in the field of view, that won't be a problem.
If you get an alt/az mount you may have some problems with field-rotation over the length of a night, but if you get an EQ mount that won't be a problem.
3) Planetary imaging is perfect for suburban/city imaging because the planets are bright enough that light pollution isn't really a concern. The biggest noise from your setup is likely to be you (apart from the whirring of the your mount doing the tracking or slewing).
Good luck and keep asking questions! Sounds like you're on the right track already.