you'll get a diversity of opinions on a forum like this.
Some say 8" Dob is great for their 6 y.o. some say it's too big for 10 y.o. I think it's about right for 12+ y.o. It's quite a handful for 10 y.o. IMO but will grow into it. And he will be ecstatic blown away by the sheer size of it

- I'd have to say though that balcony scope it is not. For the local park it's perfect.
Some will say get a computerised mount some will say keep it simple and put money into mount and optics. I'd be inclined to say the latter though see there are convincing arguments for both. If you want really small compact I'd say get a Vixen Porta (or one of the clone) AZ mounts and an 80mm refractor (an ED 'apo' preferably, but a good (semi-)achromat is okay to).
80mm Mak not a good choice IMO. Narrow FOV and not enough aperture for good detail on planets at high powers. Best to go along to star party / club night / or even just go into the shop and get some hands-on with some gear. I'd have a chat to Roger at Bintel - he is very helpful and straight down the line IME - and no he is not paying me!