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Originally Posted by adman
Although I would take kindness and respect any day over manners.
Kindness and respect come from the heart, and manners should flow from that. It is possible to show good manners, but at the same time show no respect. Look at the the previous posts where the supposedly well-mannered person finds that their opening a door for a woman was not appreciated.
Adam
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If she had said please don't open doors for me I prefer to do that for myself, no problem I respect that but that's not what happened. She launched into a loud rant abusing me in front of 50 or more people which I found very embarrassing to say the least. The passenger door was the only way in unless I went through the rear tailgate and even after I informed her that this was the case she still carried on as before so I left her there, I would have done the same if it had been a male. When you sink to this level I feel very little need to be polite nor will you gain my respect and if I behaved in a similar manner I could not hope to gain your respect either. she got what she disserved plain and simple and my response had nothing to do with her not appreciating the door being opened. As has been echoed throughout this thread if I am first to the door I will open it regardless of gender and if a female or male opens a door for me I always thank them not go in to a tirade as to whose function in society it is to do such a thing and start doubting my own self worth. In fact I actually feel privileged and valued when someone show's such a courteously, its like someone waving you into a lane in heavy traffic just plain good manners and always appreciated. I was brought up to believe in equality of the sexes and have never viewed it any other way. If people can't recognise a simple act of good manners then I feel very sorry for them as they are missing out on one of the few good things left in our fast declining society. Loud angry responses only belittle the person doing all the shouting and will often lead to ridicule not a gain in respect shown by others. It does more harm then good.
Mark