Now now David, don't play your guilty conscience
I actually was NOT referring to you, I knew your circumstance etc. and we had discussed it.
As to the neighbour issue, manners is one thing, but being attacked in the first place is not going to set me in a very hospitable nature with someone. First impressions do count, regardless of what people say, and if she was going to be all hostile and narky right from the first word, well, I wasn't going to hold my tongue. She showed no manners to me, and berated me in a very sarcastic and accusative intonation, so, yes, I quipped sarcasm back at her. Each successive "incident" - mainly in her mind - I totally held my tongue and said NOTHING to her. It is more courteous and manneristic to say nothing, rather than say something at all in such circumstance. Note like I said, I have NEVER cussed at her, nor said a harsh word to her, merely one quip of sarcasm after being first berated.