Guys you are Champions!!!!!!!!!!!
Tonight i finally got my GEM polar aligned! I used the Polar Alignment utility in the CGEM menu, followed the instructions, and after only 10 minutes its aligned.
I had tried the Solar Noon, but for some reason I just couldnt get the alignment right, I also tried drift alignment, omg that was the biggest failure (due to my n00bness), i also found that the time was set wrong on the computer i was using in the observatory, which is also why my GOTO was not working correctly, it was out by a full 7 minutes!!
Thank you everyone who gave me hints and tips, i can now track objects very accurately, even after 4 hours of star hopping i can still slew to jupiter very close to center in the illuminated EP.
Thank you all again !!