Hi Suzy,
You are brave indeed
but I'm with you on this.
I've just read through "The Eerie Silence" by Paul Davies, which really poses a lot of challenging questions about it.
Instead of just considering the Fermi Paradox - "Where are they all?", we should be asking "Why should they?" or even "When might they?", or "How exactly?"
It's a lot larger question than I first realized. There apparently isn't really much reason why we would see any evidence of ET.
This means that if we DO ever, it would be even more earth shaking than most of us have thought.
Myself, I don't believe in actual flying saucers zooming around Earth right now, but as to the bigger question..... are they out there anywhere...... it has many more implications than we usually consider.
Cheers