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Originally Posted by Suzy
Robert, it sounds to me like you live your whole life to please others and that you come last. If we all listened to the extra tone not vocalised from our spouse and analyised every response, we would all be puppets without any voice or desire of our own. I apologise for being harsh, but from you said about your wife's response sounds like the epitome of passive aggressiveness. Take your stand, and do something for yourself for a change. Keep the mount and buy a second hand scope. If you give it up now and lose the opportunity for which you have waited so long for, and already started a journey on, it sounds to me you will live to regret it big time and harbour resentment. She told you to buy the scope - just buy the scope. If you don't go for it now, you may well be waiting another 40 years to have a go. Give yourself some happiness - I'm sure you deserve it. No one should have to wait that long to pursue something that has been so passionate for them.
$25,000 plus for a wedding?! That's outrageous! I'm assuming you are paying for the whole lot. Everyone I know, myself included and even the young-ens of today have paid something towards the cost of their own weddings. That amount would be a serious deposit on a house.
I honestly hope I'm not coming across too harsh Robert.  I'm saying all this because this post has pulled on my heart strings and I want you to be happy (even tho I don't know you).  |
Thanks Suzy..............you HAVE worked me out..........I'm putting myself last here as I know that it's not a good time to spend........and I already have when I shouldn't have.
My sincere thanks to all others for their support and advice.
Yes, we are paying for the entire wedding.......... 25k is , believe it or not, quite reasonable for 110 people (and that's with some ''who you know'' thrown in, if you know what I mean?).The daughter and her man have indeed contributed to various aspects of the wedding.Not only that, they were smart enough during their engagement to save a considerable amount of money for a deposit on a new house and land package and are now living in that exact home.........good on 'em!
My daughter's fiancee's father is on a pension after receiving a heart transplant many years ago. His wife does not work for obvious reasons.
We made it quite evident from the start that we did not expect any major contribution from his side.
As I have been off work for nearly 2 weeks with a chronic knee problem, today I called in to Gerry Gibbs Camera House here in Cannington W.A. and was gob struck by a 12 inch Skywatcher Flex- Dob.
What a magnificent beast...................had no idea they looked so beautiful.....................one day,one day............