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If the councillor is any good they will spot her telling them what she thinks they want to hear. She sounds like she is in denial, which is par for the course. I wouldn't even see a councillor until I was a blubbering wreck. At least being in that state I was forced to admit I needed more than one session. By the time I recovered a bit I had accepted going to the councillor and continued to do so until he kicked me out. I don't know what you can say to convince her to continue with councilling. My only suggestion is that you or someone else close to her should see the councillor for advice about how to convince her.
I have also observed that different councillors have different approaches, not just in personallity but also in the type of threapy they use, and the patient needs to be matched to a suitable councillor. I was lucky in that the first councillor I saw suited me very well but your wife may not be so lucky.
You and others close to her need to understand that undergoing councilling is hard, challenging work. I used to see the councillor in the late afternoon and I did absolutely nothing for the rest of the night. I was exhausted and had a million things going around in my head. I needed time to process what I had just been through. If she does see a councillor it isn't just business as usual - cook the dinner, put the kids to bed - when she comes home. She will need some time to herself.
Lastly, don't be afraid to see someone yourself. You are also having a hard time.
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