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The thing that really annoys me with people is their insistence of having you to do all the bending and swaying whilst they remain rigid in their attitudes. Now, I'm not married, but I've been in a few relationships in my time. Most have split amicably but not over astronomy. However, I feel that if you really love something you shouldn't have to give it up just for their sake and they shouldn't insist that you do. If they do, then ask them to give up on something they love as well and you'll hear howls of protest and self righteous indignation. But then you'll see just how long it will last if they do take you up on it...not very long at all. Yes, any relationship is about compromise, give and take, but not to the point where either or both of you end up hating one another, or it's just a silly game of power playing. Sometimes I wonder whether it's worth it, getting into a marriage with someone, given all the rubbish that seems to go on between people, but if you're lucky enough to hit on that happy medium then it is. Usually when there's a dispute over a cherished hobby or whatever, the problem is much deeper seated than what it appears and not necessarily to do with the subject at hand. Only that it is acting as a catalyst for whatever else is wrong.
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