Hi Henry,
I'll add my ditto too to the others above. There are quite a few on this forum and elsewhere who have had a frustrating first night but still succeeded in the end. Keep at it and follow the above advice particularly about aligning the finder in daylight on a non-moving object like a distant telegraph pole -- much, much easier
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And remember this: using a telescope is a little bit like learning to play a musical instrument -- nobody realistically expects to pick up a guitar etc and play like a master first time. The skills you will need to find and observe things are learned with practice -- in truth it is quicker and easier than a musical instrument but a similar sort-of thing.
Keep trying!
Best,
Les D