The following software may cover about 70% of yr reqmts
http://www.astrogeeks.com/Bliss/MetaGuide/
It doesnt tell you which knobs to turn, but it does stack and process images to get a better profile of the actual airy disk shape/distortion, and it also tracks/centres the scope during collimation, ( as long as you chg the collimation slowly enough to keep the star centroid on yr chip )
Andrew