Hey Bob,
Glad to hear you're doing well.
As a parent of two sons on the spectrum, one Aspie and one Aspie/ADHD, I can easily identify with your situation. We often think we live with three little Sheldons! In many cases, aspies inherit their gifts from their fathers, so it's likely I'm somewhere there on the spectrum with you.
That said, our eldest son's early diagnosis as a four y/o was the catalyst for my wife to now study psychology, as she had zillions of appointments with our kids for early intervention, psych, speech therapists etc., and now as a scout leader, she has the rare gift of understanding quirky kids at camps etc. She's often referred to as "The Autism Whisperer".
Although not without his challenges on the journey, our eldest son is doing well, about to graduate high school & likely to study engineering & robotics.
As such, I too, can now easily tell if a client in our photo studio is an Aspie - signs such as lack of eye contact, infatuation with a unique special interest (like astronomy ha ha!), strong opinions about the rightness of minutia, general awkwardness and misreading of social cues etc. None of these things are bad though, just different. The well-known author Kathy Lette has a son on the spectrum - she refers to Aspies as "the Garlic in the Salad of Life".
I understand that Aspies are warmly welcomed for jobs in Silicon Valley, and in many other vocations where hyperfocus and attention to detail is an asset.
So yes, celebrate these differences; life would be pretty dull without them!
CS
Andy