I chose number 2. Pammie is quite happy for me to spend some time with one of my 'scopes and doesn't have any major issues when I buy stuff, but she doesn't participate very much with observing which is a shame coz she's got great observing eyes. Pammie was very supportive when I decided to donate my 250mm Dob to our local primary school rather than trying to sell it
The only rub is she is not quite as supportive of my more radical ideas like moving abroad when I finish my TAFE course.