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Thankyou so much all, for your wisdom, time, and effort. At the expense of sounding presumptuous, the quality and care taken in these replies is exactly what I expected from this good place. The details were a total surprise however, as I am totally lost in this situation - I now have something to work with.
I'm at a bit of a disadvantage to elaborate in my responses, as it would not be right to refer to the specifics of somebody's health situation in public without permission. I can say however, that each individual reply contains a specific truth.
To Steve (Sil), absolutely no offense taken. Desperate times call for desperate measures, and 30+ years of this problem puts any solution on the table.
I understand my Old Man's right to self determination. I'd expect no less myself. Even at 40, I realise my young children outdo me in energy for boundless play. So the introduction of the gulf between myself, and the perfectly healthy is becoming evident. Naturally, it can only go downhill until my enevitable death. As others (via PM) have taught, with his background, he is (internally) bulletproof, and this gulf is either unrealised, or impossible to face.
Unfortunately it becomes difficult to accept when his torment (is that the right word?) leads to abuse of others and sometimes violence. Like many things, they start out small, and snowball. I want to give him his own space and time to decide this, until I remember that my Mother has to live with him in the same house (and she's been miserable for it since I can remember).
Back to the positive/solutions mindset, I should mention some small details. Indeed, standard prescription hearing aids are possibly equivilent to generic reading glasses from the chemist. Not much fun. Glen, you have reminded me that indeed, he did invest in a more advanced model for those very reasons you describe. My knowledge of his attitude makes me think that he was perhaps too passive during the Audiologist's appointment. He tends to simply agree with the first offering put forth, in the face of an industry expert. He'll argue with a peer on anything, but co-operates without question when someone holds a certificate on the matter. In short, it's likely his wiz-bang devices are not sufficiently tuned.
Everyone's help has gotten me thinking in new ways... What of this approach: Finding a trusted friend of his (who is NOT family), and seeing if they can encourage him for another audiologists visit... Hopefully getting it right, and putting $7k of hearing aids to their full potential. The point being that he properly engages with the professional trying to help him. Introducing the understanding that only his perception of sound is sufficient to callibrate the unit, and achieve success.
There are many points mentioned by you all which I have not fully digested. Of course, I will read them all again tonight. Once more, thankyou all for your kindness and effort.
Andy.
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