Hi James.
Each and every one of us has had that happen.
Nothing but more time with the equipment will give the experience to quickly find and hold target.
Techniques vary also.
My procedure is (with a GOTO mount and PHD guiding):
1: Get the mount aligned level and facing North South.
2: DO a one star align to get the mount tracking.
3: Spend as long as it takes to get good polar alignment.
4: REDO a one star align in the area of interest.
5: Dial in your target (GOTO), it should be on the screen somewhere.
6: Center the target. (If first time focus use bright planet or Moon)
7: Spend as long as it takes to focus.
Or you can do what Alex does and just point the scope upwards
Tip: Take a pair of gloves :-)