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Originally Posted by leon
Thank you so much, I read all your responses and then read them again. 
My darling girl is safe when we go out, and if we need a hug so be it,
Stuff em 
Leon  |
Yep, also try to explain to her the actions of others and why they are inappropriate too. So she doesn't learn to immitate them herself. I dont have my own children but have been around many in my life, used to babysit, and these days i've become attached to some neighbours who've been helpful in my time of need and I love their girls dearly. They are very well balanced individuals (I find it easy to dislike children who are selfish and demanding) but at 2 and 5 these two are far better people than most adults I know. But also being a single disabled male I am painfully aware of the looks I get from others if I am interacting with the girls. I don't try to deamand affection from them but if they come to me for a hug they can have one, if they have akward questions to ask I try my best to give them an unbiased straight forward answer. I find if you act or talk childish to children thats what they take on board and behave, but if you talk to them as you do other adults they respond in a more mature way. When they ask those awkward innocent questions dont avoid them, try to give a clear simple answer responsible answer, and where possible try to take them through a process where they can work out or find the answer for themselves. My biggest worries for my neighbours girls will be primary and highscool, especially fads and peer pressure, I'd hate to see them change into horrible greedy people. I probably wont live long enough to see though and I agree feminism pendulum has swung too far, many females dont see their discrimination in what they do and say towards females is itself sexist. Sexism is one gender discriminating against another. That simple. No mention of male or female or transgender or whatever. So yes in the past it was mostly males against females but now we're getting females against males. Its going to take ever individual human being to change it, not laws, as its a cultural thing, something we learn from our parents growing up, something we learn from our teachers and peers. It will take generations to dillute and remove but it starts with every individual to think about their actions and words (using gender neutral terms where gender is not the subject). And don't think someone did or din't do something because of your gender, you can be dislike by others for other reasons or perhaps someone else was actually the better person for the job instead of you. Anyone who thinks their gender is enough reason to be given a job or payrise has much bigger problems they should seek councilling on.
I'm not say discrimination doesnt happen, being disabled I get it every day working in a government department that makes big claim on being tolerant when they aren't, but when you dont get what you want don't immediately play the discrimination card.