I feel your pain mate. I've been struggling with PHD for a little while now with no success.
One thing to note when doing drift alignment is that tiny adjustments can go a long way.
Hopefully it's ok to link to other forums here, but have a read of this thread for some suggestions on drift aligning, it helped me out a lot:
http://www.cloudynights.com/topic/47.../#entry6172443
Drift aligning isn't the problem for me it's actual guiding. No matter what I do I can't get that to work well. I've finally got DEC guiding working well enough by making the scope even more east heavy, changing the minimum move to 0.6px and the guide length to 250ms. My RA is off the dial though, completely random it seems.
Last night I ended up giving up because my ram was getting far too interested in me and my equipment (even rearing at my mount and trying to eat the cables) but before that I had the... I think it's the "RMS error" or something, was reading 0.4 on DEC but 2.5 on RA... worst I've seen on RA yet. Driving me nuts because I have lots of new toys but this is preventing me from actually doing anything with them