I agree with all of this.
I am not trying to defend refractors but if I have one gripe about this age old question which keeps on coming up is that whenever arguements about how reflector X beats refractor Y the advocates of such arguments always seem to be comparing modest refractors and don't actually have any or much experience with "refractors" at the top end.
For example, I haven't yet come across someone who says "I used an AP Starfire for 5 years but then I sold it in a heart beat because I got fantastic/better views etc etc from a 10' Dob/Newt"