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Gargoyle_Steve
23-04-2011, 02:11 AM
Those amongst you who consider yourselves to be Dog lovers will know what I mean when I say that they truly are man's best friend. They offer unlimited love, expect nothing in return but are always glad to receive kind words or a good scratch.

In January 1997 I brought home from the local dog refuge a female Staffy cross who had been there for 6 weeks before I saw her. Luckily our local refuge does not EVER have an animal put to sleep except for medical reasons, otherwise I would never have found her. She'd been mistreated, physically she was ok but she had a terror of hoses, belts, dog leads, and any loud or sudden noise. Her previous owners had named her Moo - I assume because she was white with black patches just like a Fresian cow. I was waiting to think of a better name - but it never came. Somehow when you called her Moo the name suited her gentle personality, so the name stayed.

She ended up having the most beautiful and amazing charisma, and she was so sweet but such a Princess! She was always ready to con you into scratching her back, rubbing her ears or giving her a snack, she always did it in such a way that you knew you were being conned but didn't mind one bit. She managed to wrap everyone who knew her around her little toe with her winning smile.

On the day I brought her home, in fact only an hour or so later, I received a call letting me know that a local family who owned a breeding pair of Staffies had just witnessed the female giving birth to 6 pups, and there was a brindle male for me in the litter if I wanted him. So just a few weeks later I brought home this young pup whom I'd named Loki, and was surprised but awfully pleased to find that 17 month old Moo took over for the next year or so as his mother. After that they were more like siblings, and they were as inseparable as any definition of the word could convey.

Moo and Loki were my best friends, constant companions, and travel buddies for many years. They kept me going during some very dark and difficult years when I became long term unemployed, giving me their love and warmth and smiles always. More than likely they saved my life during this period when even friends I'd known for many years let contact, and our friendship, slip away, in most cases never to be recovered.

Anyway ... trying to keep this post short against near impossible odds, flash forward through many many years of wonderful companionship, and great times that the 3 of us shared, to late 2009.

My beautiful Princess Moo had been diagnosed with a disfiguring and inoperable facial cancer, and I was told I'd that somewhere along the way I'd have to decide when it was time to have her put to sleep before she started to suffer. There are very few decisions in life harder to make, but finally the day after her 14th birthday I took her for her last drive anywhere - to the vet to have her put to sleep.

I can't tell you how hard this was, or how much it affected and continues to affect me, but as hard as it was on me it hit Loki hard, so very very hard. He had suffered a long term issue with restricted movement in his rear legs - but he basically stopped even trying to walk, preferring to sit instead next to me whenever possible. Loki was aging too and started to suffer other health issues: swollen prostate, bladder infections, pressure sores and so on. He has needed so much time and attention to help him maintain quality of life, but he's had it in spades and I've always said that if he could talk to me he'd still rather partake of life instead of resting in peace. He turned 14 in January, and life was still carrying on for us.

Nothing lasts forever.

Over the last few days Loki suddenly went downhill. His appetite dropped away, and he has ALWAYS loved his food, and as of Thursday morning he stopped eating, or drinking. After trying for 24 hours to get some antibiotics into him unsuccessfully, and seeing his personality just go flat, I knew that his time may have come. There was now blood visibly tainting his urine as well.

So today on Good Friday, or yesterday I should say as I can't sleep, I took him in to the Emergency Pet ER. The diagnosis was fairly quick, and to some extent expected: renal failure. His kidneys were/had shut down, and there was only pain and death in store for him.

So for the 2nd time in 18 months I found myself telling one of my best friends ever that I loved them, and looked into their eyes until they were gone and saw no more.

I'm not posting this to pull on anyone's heart strings, or to gain any sympathy. I wasn't even posting it to give support for anyone else who may have to make a similar decision in the future, although on reflection I hope that it may help someone.

I'm posting this because to be honest I had to get a bunch of emotions of my chest at least for a moment, and I wanted some record somewhere of how wonderful my 2 mates Loki and Moo were, and how much I loved them, and how much I will miss them always.

ballaratdragons
23-04-2011, 02:22 AM
and beautifully told too Steve.

I am not looking forward to this myself with our oldest dog Kelsie. He has been with us for my youngest son's whole life (15 years), so when the day comes it will hit him the hardest. He hasn't known life without Kelsie.

They may be just 'dogs' to some, but they are really more than that.
They are our mates!

Thank you for sharing your story Steve.

Rick Petrie
23-04-2011, 06:21 AM
Very touching story Steve. So sad for you.
I really feel for you as I too have two aging dogs and that I will be facing all your realities before much longer.
A dogs relation to it's owner is sometimes much stronger than some human relationships and when the time comes it is really difficult.
You will have their memories with you though at all times. Cheers

jjjnettie
23-04-2011, 08:20 AM
Huge hugs Steve.
I know how much pain you must be going through right now.

supernova1965
23-04-2011, 08:53 AM
Hi Steve,

My wife and I worked at our local SPCA for 3 years and we saw many abused dogs and cats come through our care in that time and your story reminded me of one dog in particular.

He was a Staffie that had had his jaw broken and several other injuries by his previous owner and was frightened and on the defence against anyone who approached him. I sat in his pen every day for 2 months slowly getting his trust and affection and we found a home for him with a great person who was taking him to Darwin with him. So I know that you gave MOO the best life ever after you found her and that she went on her way with memories that she wouldn't have without you and you and Loki gave her a great life. You also made Loki's remaining life one that will bring great benefit to your current and future lives.

Any way I hope that you can enjoy your memories and also remember that both MOO and Loki would want you to enjoy your life and be happy for the time you had together.

batema
23-04-2011, 08:54 AM
I'm sorry to hear of your loss and sadness Steve but this may put a smile on your face. We almost lost our 8 month old mull mastiff x Ridgeback last night. I was outside setting up my scope, finally due to weather, and heard screams from inside the house to see Apollo(dog) run outside with both our pieces of Baramundi we were going to have for dinner in his mouth. I did not think it was possible to swallow such large pieces of fish so quickly. Even the look (you know that I'm cute and can get away with it) wasn't doing it for my wife for the first couple of minutes but ended up having chicken with a lovely fish sauce over it.

Mark

mozzie
23-04-2011, 09:07 AM
no heart strings here steve you lost your mate and i'm sorry!!!! it's a hard thing to do but it's the right thing..hope you and your family remember the good times.and in time and after the tears you may get another mate....

doesn't it sux they should live for 20 to 30 years instead of a decade...

Ric
23-04-2011, 09:09 AM
Hi Steve, it's terrible to lose a friend and companion like that.

I feel for your loss.

astroron
23-04-2011, 09:28 AM
:hi:Steve Thanks for such a great account of your love for your two dogs Loki and Moo:)
Having seen you with them and even patted them myself I feel your loss:sadeyes:
I look forward to catching up with you soon so I can give you my condolances.
All the best
Ron

Trixie
23-04-2011, 10:04 AM
I am so sorry for your losses. Dogs are such a huge part of our families. Your post made me tear up and I had to go and give my old dog a big hug.

My old rotty will be 12 next month. In every other way he is fine but his back legs are failing, it seems to be a common fault in Rottweilers. I am dreading having to make that heartbreaking drive to the vets when the time comes. He truely has been our best friend. It breaks my heart to know that his legs will go before anything else but with 50 something kilo dog Im not sure if there will be anything I can do to help him.

Go gently, this will be a hard time for you

TrevorW
23-04-2011, 10:11 AM
All the best Steve

in tha last 35 years of marraige we've lost a few dogs ourselves either through age or misfortune and know where you are comming from

they bond to humans and each other like no other, they feel our pain and joy, they share our goodtimes and bad, they are part of our life, our family and stay with us in memories forever.

Kal
23-04-2011, 12:26 PM
I know how hard it is Steve, I had my last dog Tyson for 13 years before I took him to the vet one last time to have him put to sleep. Was the hardest thing I have ever had to do. My sympathies for your losses.

joshhagger
23-04-2011, 05:05 PM
Hi Steve,

I feel for you, we had to make the same decision this weekend for our beloved English Pointer, her 15yo back hips finally gave out. It a horrible decision to make, but sometimes it's the only humane option.

Regards,
Josh

Fox
24-04-2011, 05:16 PM
I'm so sorry for your loss Steve, and I'm sure all of us here understand the need to share this. Many years ago, when it came time to put down my beloved Dusty (female kelpie), it was one of hardest things I've ever had to do, ever - the pain is indescribable. Only time can heal this Steve, so I wish that you keep well. Fox

Hagar
24-04-2011, 06:44 PM
Steve, I really feel for your loss. As you say the love of a good dog is something to behold. I have a lovely black Lab which has taken up position in our lives as one of our kids. Her loss would be devastating to say the least. Thanks for sharing this lovely story of you two best mates. I dread the day I have to make the same descision.
Best mates are never forgotten.

EddieDog
24-04-2011, 06:45 PM
Steve, we know just how you feel, we lost two last year, one in similar circumstances. It tears you apart. For us dog-lovers, it's like losing a member of ones family. It IS losing a member of your family. Yep, tears and sadness. And even now, I miss their padding around the house, following me everywhere (Almost!). Don't feel bad about posting. I'm sure we all feel for you. My avatar image is 'Whisky', our Cavalier we lost a couple of months after 'Tequila' who was in a similar situation to yours passed away in our arms at the vet. It's devestating but suprising just how much support one gets and from were. Hang in there Mate, you'll come through.
Sincere thoughts
Eddie

Gargoyle_Steve
24-04-2011, 10:52 PM
Thank you all very much for your kind words. I'm also very sorry for all of you who have been through the same experience, especially you Josh as you're going through this right now as well.

Those who haven't had to go through this experience, please don't ever let this fear stop you from getting a pet in the first place. The more we love them the harder it is to lose them, and as hard as it is for me right now I had 14 great years with my 2 best friends, and when the time is right I WILL find another best friend.

AstroJunk
25-04-2011, 02:47 AM
My young fella sends the only message he knows...

Octane
25-04-2011, 03:12 AM
Steve,

So sorry to hear of your loss.

:(

H

shelltree
25-04-2011, 03:45 PM
Steve, I'm really sorry to hear for your loss, mate. I cannot even imagine what you must be going through right now. They become a part of our lives and make us smile in ways that people can't and it is always sad to see them go. At least they are both at peace now and not in any pain.

Take care.

Shell

luvmybourbon
25-04-2011, 05:16 PM
sympathies to you, my best friend i got as a mere puppy knee high to a flea, he was being given away because he was the runt of the litter! for 15 years my staffy cross lab gave me every support i needed, esp when i was feeling down. anyone that says "they are only an animal" doesnt realise the value they can give.
P.S my rocky got cremated so i will take him with me