Same Sex Marriage Bill passes

[xelasnave]

I am a bit down on marriages generally having spent time in the Commonwealth Attorney Generals Family Law Division.
I am not sure of current divorce figures but 1 in 3 or 4 eventually fail I believe.
Anyways working there you of course only see the marriages that go wrong.
And it is so sad how folk who are so in love ,I assume, when they get married become such bitter humans all because of marriage gone wrong.
But even before that the nonsence of weddings is hard to fathom.
The pledging of one human to another seems odd driven by insecurity, a mere method to hold off any change the future may hold.
And the reception I call a waste of money, and everything must be just right, flowers decorations, all dictated by whatever whimsical fashion is the current flavour.
The one upmanship is sad reflecting the most base displays of human pride.

But then failure sees each partner intent on dragging out the agony of the split up out far past anything that could be seem as normal human behaviour.
Each wanting to hurt the other and a mere licence of marriage becomes aicience to hate.
And where does marriage come from..from times where it was used to join family fortunes or to bring peace between waring enemies.
I don't care who wants to get married I see it as a terrible institution binding insecure folk in relationships that are somewhat simply not normal in fitting with human behaviour.
Alex

[strongmanmike (Michael)]

Originally Posted by xelasnave

I am a bit down on marriages generally having spent time in the Commonwealth Attorney Generals Family Law Division.
I am not sure of current divorce figures but 1 in 3 or 4 eventually fail I believe.
Anyways working there you of course only see the marriages that go wrong.
And it is so sad how folk who are so in love ,I assume, when they get married become such bitter humans all because of marriage gone wrong.
But even before that the nonsence of weddings is hard to fathom.
The pledging of one human to another seems odd driven by insecurity, a mere method to hold off any change the future may hold.
And the reception I call a waste of money, and everything must be just right, flowers decorations, all dictated by whatever whimsical fashion is the current flavour.
The one upmanship is sad reflecting the most base displays of human pride.

But then failure sees each partner intent on dragging out the agony of the split up out far past anything that could be seem as normals human behaviour.
Each wanting to hurt the other and a mere licence of marriage becomes aicience to hate.
And where does marriage come from..from times where it was used to join family fortunes or to bring leave between waring enemies.
I don't care who wants to get married I see it as a terrible institution binding insecure folk in relationships that are somewhat simply not normal in fitting with human behaviour.
Alex

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[jenchris (Jennifer)]

Ah Akex. If you are truly in love the adds ons aren't important. There were only 4 people at my wedding and it cost 100us. The reception was lunch at a restaurant for the four of us and we went back to work after.
That was 37 years ago. We're still together and happy.

[xelasnave]

Originally Posted by jenchris

Ah Akex. If you are truly in love the adds ons aren't important. There were only 4 people at my wedding and it cost 100us. The reception was lunch at a restaurant for the four of us and we went back to work after.
That was 37 years ago. We're still together and happy.

That is reasonable.
But I am sure you know the type of thing I am thinking about.

I know what its like to be in love...
I have had dogs so I know all about it...and a cat.
In fact I am with the cat now, the one that near took my hand off.
The little devil went straight thru the netting in his cat room and got out.
Just as they go away for the concert.
So for hours I look for him and when I found him had the good sense not to pick him up..left the door open and eventually he came back in.
IG that is not love I don't know what is.
Alex

[casstony]

Originally Posted by xelasnave

But even before that the nonsence of weddings is hard to fathom.
Alex

Yes, we need to do away with the wedding 'industry'. It's way too stressful and expensive and youngsters get sucked into the commercial nature of it all.

A ceremony in a nice garden/forest followed by a backyard barbeque for the reception is my preference; use the cash saved to put towards a home or holiday.

Our own wedding ceremony took place in a foggy Redwood grove.

[xelasnave]

Why not arranged marriages given the parents know better than the kids.
Alex

[casstony]

Originally Posted by xelasnave

Why not arranged marriages given the parents know better than the kids.
Alex

As a parent with an 18yo daughter I think that's a great idea; it's painful watching them make the same mistakes we made. She's a bit lukewarm on the idea though

[xelasnave]

One certainly needs to let them choose.
So it would be best to present a group of suitable prospects from whom they can choose.
Alex

[LewisM]

Originally Posted by MortonH

"Surrounded by" but not populated by?

Touche Morton

Luv ya too Mike, but you know, in the platonic way. Oh hang on, Plato swung both ways...Hmmmm...either way, so long as you don't grope me....or even frisk me.... and NO MAFIA KISSES EITHER!

[The_bluester (Paul)]

Originally Posted by casstony

Yes, we need to do away with the wedding 'industry'. It's way too stressful and expensive and youngsters get sucked into the commercial nature of it all.

A ceremony in a nice garden/forest followed by a backyard barbeque for the reception is my preference; use the cash saved to put towards a home or holiday.

Our own wedding ceremony took place in a foggy Redwood grove.

Sounds a bit like ours.

We were married on our property, in front of a large rock that is a memorial to my father, under leafy trees, with the other participants being the celebrant, my mother and my wife's parents (Both now deceased)

We then proceeded to have a nice lunch at a local cafe and jumped on the ferry to Tassie, texting everyone with what we had done just before we went out of mobile range after going out of Port Phillip Bay through the heads (Something that is probably a thing of the past, there may be phone coverage on the ferry now?)

The only people who knew beforehand why we were having a lunch that day were my wife and I and the celebrant, plus my mother the day before as she chipped a tooth and was threatening to go to the dentist. She worked it out when we insisted she had to be there.

We spent easily ten times as much on our honeymoon trip around Tassie than on the wedding and that was only a handful of thousands for a week or so.

[LewisM]

Originally Posted by jenchris

Ah Akex. If you are truly in love the adds ons aren't important. There were only 4 people at my wedding and it cost 100us. The reception was lunch at a restaurant for the four of us and we went back to work after.
That was 37 years ago. We're still together and happy.

4? That's a lot - I stopped the car one day. Turned to my then fiancee, and said let's get married NOW. Went to the courthouse. Told us we had to wait 3 days, and needed 2 witnesses (1 for the groom, one for the bride). So, we hustled up some friends, bought 2 wedding rings, went to the court house (with my wife in a sun dress) 3 days later and literally had a shotgun wedding. Went to the RSL and had some cake with the friends, then drove 5 hours to my grandparents for our impromptu honeymoon (for the first time, I got my Grandmother completely drunk, which was funny!). Cost? Dunno - whatever registering with the court was back then - $60 by memory. I did not even invite my mother (don't ask!), but told her AFTER. (she didn't forgive us for a couple years). My father lived in Singapore then, so couldn't come either.

Did it all over again a year later surrounded by 100 people, ceremony on the lake, proper reception and honeymoon (eventually). Didn't cost us a cent either, as not only did my inlaws pay for EVERYTHING including the airfares, but we were given cash as wedding presents (people knew we couldn't take stuff home easily), so went home with $7K.

11 years, 2 kids and counting and still very much in love (besides the ear bashings I get for buying stuff)

[N1 (Mirko)]

Originally Posted by xelasnave

Why not arranged marriages given the parents know better than the kids.
Alex

Spot on Alex. Arranging my own right now, and not leaving it to the kids. Don't want Bat or Spiderman on the guest list

[jenchris (Jennifer)]

You didn't buy a wedding ring did you? - I found mine while scuba diving (Bermuda).
I did go somewhere quiet before I tried it on in case I disappeared.... my prrrecciousss <gollum>

[strongmanmike (Michael)]

Please read original post again and again....aaaaand again ... HAPPY DAYS it is now the law

Mike

[jenchris (Jennifer)]

I am so glad it is just your thought.
I'd hate ro think it disturbed your sleep.

[xelasnave]

Hey Blindman,
Don't watch porn.
Alex

[xelasnave]

Blindman if you think the movement is over the top consider this.
They have been treated badly for a real long time and treated unjustly.
The pendulum may seem to have swung too far and even if it did can you really hold it against them.
As Mike says be happy.
Alex

[LewisM]

Originally Posted by xelasnave

Hey Blindman,
Don't watch porn.
Alex

Alex is right - it makes you go blind.

Oh...oooooooppss!

[blindman]

Trying to be happy, but but but consequences of that new law will be disastreous.

[FlashDrive (Poppy)]

Originally Posted by LewisM

- it makes you go blind.

How do you know that ....

Poppy ...