Hi Lewis
Search for 'shy shorts' such as these, they have most of the advantages of the lycra ones, but, not nearly as obvious.
https://ivanhoecycles.com.au/bicycle...hy-Shorts/1284
I found the split saddles much better than the normal ones. It can take buying a few before you find one you are really happy with. Depends on the distance you are going as well.
As for discomfort on the butt, I find that goes away, a few days after some 20km rides.
Have fun, and drink plenty of water while riding.
I found that I was drinking 2 water bottles on the way home (during summer), and more when I got there! I bought a 3L version of one these, and occaisionally emptied it on the way home.
https://ivanhoecycles.com.au/bicycle...tion-Packs/509
(the links are just as examples)
Philip